Small gestures make people feel loved. In fact, they can do more to make your relationship last than over-the-top romantic gestures. Researchers at the College of Health and Human Development at Penn State asked 495 American adults about whether they would feel loved in 60 different scenarios. Results showed that loving actions are the best […]
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Most people don’t like being told what they’ve done wrong. Even if we try to keep an open mind, negative feedback can lead to counter-criticism and argument that ruins relationship communication. In fact, often, poor communication between couples leads to blaming, fights, and damage to the relationship. It’s difficult to tell your partner that you’re […]
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Because we’re human, we are familiar with being members of a group—family, school, work, and social groups. It follows that groups are realistic settings for solving real-life problems. And that includes groups in the therapy setting. In group therapy, one or two professional therapists help several people with similar problems—such as anxiety, addiction or illness—work […]
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Overcoming perfectionism requires balance. Striving for excellence, seeking to improve—your skill at public speaking, your stamina in sports competition, your knowledge of a foreign language—is healthy when you are happy with yourself and want to be even better. Perfectionism, however, comes from feeling that you’re never good enough. A perfectionist’s striving is unrealistic. It’s an […]
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Most people seeking therapy are struggling with a problem (or multiple problems) that they want to overcome. They rarely come to therapy stating, “I want to change my personality.” They want to keep the essence of who they are, but make the tweaks needed to achieve something they haven’t been able to achieve on their […]
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